Appearance – based worldĀ 

  
We are living in a world where people only look at the appearance and do not look deeper into things. It’s kinda of sad when the “don’t judge a book by its covered” no longer have any meaning in this material world . The media is conditioning we, people of earth that outer beauty is more beautiful than inner beauty. All those Super charming ,good looking man and woman in the tv drama and the addicted love story line makes people fantasize about having this kind of excited romance love life.

I confessed that I do fall into this addiction as and when I watch a drama and I would think

“WHAT IF”

(From my point of view as a woman)

I am this beautiful, rich and skinny ; i would have a so “charming, rich and deeply love me” Boyfriend or Husband. 

(From the point of view as a man)

I am handsome , charming, rich , and good body ; I would have a beautiful Girlfriend or Wife.  ( maybe man is more toward power and ego towards other Men ) 

This is really a poison that we got from the media world. 

Most of the time a lot of people lost themselves in this kind of appearance based world. Their most important values are about earning a lot of money to keep “THEIR IMAGE” of looking beautiful in appearance. 

 Not just adult are condition to live in a appearance-based world. Children are also drawn to this through media. 

One day I saw my Niece making a big fuss , just because she want to watch a Barbie cartoon. She is addicted . I was like how come her reaction is so extreme. When I watch that Barbie show to understand why is she so addicted. It really shock me. This show is about the high and glamourous life of Barbie and some romance in the story. In this current world , children are already condition to be a salve of money since young. I feel that it’s better to keep a look out of what your children are watching these days. 

It’s not only people or lifestyle. Even food is also based on appearance. I have been baking recently . I really dislike a Fondant cakes. I will never understand why people will pay few hundreds dollars for an awfully taste cakes covered with a very beautiful outer (the outer layer still taste awful)  šŸ™„

A lot of people are infected with this appearance-based poison. I am so afraid that the next generation will become obsessed with an appearance based things and forgot all about the most important things “The Inner Beauty ” 

For now , what our this generation of adult can do ;

Knowing who we really are 

Staying true to ourselves 

Follow our heart 

I am a strong believer of following my heart . My heart always serve the purpose of being my guide and I believe that when we are following our heart , our heart will lead us to a better and happier place . 

Thank you universe 

Light & Love

Alicecbn 

It’s TimeĀ 

  
Half a year back, I was rushing my relationship to marriage because I feel that “It’s Time”. I feel that I am going 33 , if I don’t get married then when?! . I am so afraid that if I married late I might not be able to have kids . That is my main concern during that time . I want to have kids. I am forcing my man to move to the next level of our relationship where by obviously he want to focus on his career right now. I am so sad that I decide to leave him or have a cooling period. During that one month , I was miserable. That is also the time when I started this journal and learn a lot of things during that period.

We have a break of around a month. I always consider myself as a lucky and bless person . I am surround with wise Friends. They are my teacher , advisor , listening ears. I happened to meet up with a client whom we have not met few years. Last heard is , he got a flat and got married. When I met him I ask him about his marriage life . Apprently , he and his Wife relationship is worst. After one year into marriage , they sleep in separate bedroom and not talking to each other. 

How can a marriage turn into stranger ?? 

I told him I was having a cooling period to think about my relationship because I want to get married and have kids because IT’S TIME and my man don’t want to go into marriage. This let me think that my man don’t love me because he do not want to commit to me. My that Friend then told me that he also got married because IT’S TIME. After he got his master degree and got promoted to manager , he feel that Its time for him to get married because he got his certificate and his Promotion and what he lack of now is a house and a family. So he apply a flat with his current Wife and when the house come they have to get married . Because this is a Singapore law , when a couple apply for flat and got their key, within 6 months they need to get married. Therefore they got married because they have the flat and the Wife also feel that she is no longer young and it’s time to get married. 

Both feel that’s it’s time and got into a marriage not because of LOVE for each other and want to spend the rest of their life with each other . But because of its time. This is sad. Then he ask me , is having kids really important to me . I was saying ‘YES’ then he say something .

He said : if you married a man who you don’t really love but he is willingly to commit into marriage with you  and have kids with you .Will you be happy ? 

I keep quiet 

He said again :Or you would want to wait for the man who love you and you also love him And go into marriage because of love. If kids really that important to you , you should just marry any man who want to commit and have kids with you ! 

This really wake me up. He is correct !!! Actually if I want to get married because of kids I would have got married years back . It’s not because I am lack of suitors. Most of the man who have good feeling to me all happily married off . I choose LOVE . Because I want to find the Love of my Life. That is when I realised having a kids is just a social and biological clock pressure I give myself. 

I am so glad that I met this person . Now I don’t see having kids as important in my life . I believe that if my life is meant to have kids , I will have my kids with me . It’s all depend on fate ē¼˜ . I am enjoying every moment with my love right now . I am happy that I choose Love and not what a lot of people choose “It’s Time”

Thank you Universe for guiding me 

Love & Light 

Alicecbn